With the end of 2018 drawing closer it’s a time to reflect and to think of the next year ahead. When I was younger a new year seemed such a big thing. It was almost as if the new year would be the start of a new life or some grand event. Some years have involved grand events. 2009 I became a Mrs and started my new life as a wife. 2014 I became a Mum and that is definitely the start of a new life. Other years have been ones I’d rather forget. 2017 was the year I lost the life growing inside of me. 2018 I lost my Grandma and seeing my Mum going through losing her own mum was heart breaking. However, this year has definitely had it’s special moments too as I am currently pregnant with our rainbow baby.
A new year doesn’t have to define the rest of the year or the rest of your life. If something went wrong on 1st January, that doesn’t mean you’ve failed the year. There’s 364 more days and opportunities.
It’s the same with new year resolutions. Each year I think about what I want to achieve, who I want to be, what I want to change. But this year I came to a realisation. My life is amazing. I am amazing (in my own disorganised kind of way). I don’t need to set myself up for the inevitable fail of my resolutions. Any changes I want to make in my life should be for me, for my family and for friends. They should be any time of the year, planned or spontaneous. Of course in my head I am planning the next year. I am already thinking of what I want to buy for the new baby, J starting school and I really want to do something new with my hair. However, none of those are resolutions. They are things I want to prepare for…
I am in no way saying my life is perfect or I’m perfect however I want to acknowledge that despite the rubbish that has happened, there’s always good in there too.
Realistically that is what 2019 will look like too. A combination of fab adventures and crappy days. Embrace it, don’t let it mean you’ve failed the ‘new year’ or ‘new you’.
So what will 2019 look like for us…
- Prepare J for his new mainstream nursery in January, and then school in September (I’ll be excited for him to have new adventures, but sobbing at losing so much time with my boy everyday).
- Giving birth to our new little boy (I admit I’m trying to pretend I don’t remember labour or the after pains, haha).
- Lots of sorting out the house as I have to make space for two children in a small 2 bed house (I’m determined to stop my borderline-hoarder ways).
- Days out and time in the woods and the beach (let’s face it, two children will mean even less money so I’m going to make most of cheap/free local adventures).
- Tears and tantrums…from all of us as we adjust to changes in our routine. We’ll have bad days, we’ll have days where one cries or we all cry and days where I don’t get out my PJ’s but that’s not a failed ‘happy new year’-it’s life!
- Trip to London. I’ve wanted to talk J for a long time to the capital but just not had chance. This year he’s that bit older so I’m looking into some over night stays so we can do all the touristy stuff as a family (reminds me I must buy a good baby carrier).
- Developing J’s physical skills. We are currently waiting to find out how the occupational therapist wants us to help J with his physical development. In the meantime I’m continuing his Tumble Tots gymnastic sessions and creating a supply of finger/hand/wrist strength building resources to use at home.
In terms of my blog itself, I have no ‘goals’ such as how many followers I have or what collaborations I’d like to do. I’m going with the flow and just hoping that even 1 person will read my ramblings. My only aim to is to offer support through others reading my posts and thinking ‘phew, it’s not just me’. Obviously if someone wants to work with me or wants me to help promote a good cause then I’m all up for it-as long as I can do honest reviews and I can be open about the items being gifted/ad etc. Trust me, I’ve turned down some rather ‘deceitful’ offers this year.
Now if you do have a goal or challenge you’d like to achieve this year then by all means write a plan and have an idea in your head of where you want to be in 12 months time. But please, remember that there’s 365 days…give yourself a break on a few of them x